Friday, February 8, 2008

Some words from the wise...

or just the whattoexpect.com people that I hear from daily right now. I really enjoy and appreciate some of their tips for the parents, some even sound biblical (imagine that, real wisdom actually sounding biblical, hmm), read on...

"Week 10: Nurturing Your Relationship "This pregnancy is all we talk about — will it hurt our relationship?"
What's the single most significant relationship you'll have in your new life as a parent? Surprise: It's not the one you'll share with that beautiful baby you'll be bringing home some 30 weeks from now. It's the one you share — and will continue to share — with your spouse. After all, fetuses grow up into babies, who grow up into children, who grow up and move away from home (and it happens a lot faster than you can even imagine…trust me!), but a spouse is yours (with a little luck, a lot of hard work) into old age.
That said, there are sure to be some changes in the dynamics of your twosome once baby makes three (or even threatens to make three). That's inevitable (little babies tend to make a big impact on their parents' lives). But if you play your cards right (and play them right from the start, which it sounds like you're committed to doing), they can actually be changes for the better.
The first thing you guys will need to do is to start thinking of yourselves as a couple again — instead of just a couple of parents (or a couple of parents-to-be). Of course, you'll want to focus plenty of attention on your pregnancy, and on your baby-to-be — that's great, as long as you also remember to keep your relationship front-and-center (no back burner for your love life). Nurture your pregnancy and your baby, by all means, but don't forget to take the time to — and put the effort into — nurturing each other. Your baby doesn't have to come between you (though your belly definitely will).
Wishing you a lifetime of loving! Heidi"

Thanks Heidi! I think that's a lifetime's worth of advice for us, eh?! So much to learn, so few days...

2 comments:

tachan said...

Wow! Impressively wise words.

Serenity said...

Hmmm...so true. Your marriage relationship affects everything- parenting, finances, your relationship with God, in-laws, what you do with your free time, and on and on. We have definitely see the good and the bad side to this. :) I will continue to pray this wisdom over you and your growing family!
I love you!